Have Internal Confidence through Overcoming Obstacles
Hyung Jin Nim
January 6, 2008
Some members say that they cannot make time for the family because their works are busy. Then, I want to ask you. Did you see the TV drama Chumon? Many of you answer that you saw it.
God gave not a life of failure but a life of victory to blessed families in the Unification Church.
Then, isn’t it an excuse that you cannot make time for the family? We need to succeed in every part of our life. It is not for your boasting of it. It is because God blessed us in living a life of victory. God gave not a life of failure but a life of victory to blessed families in the Unification Church. On the way for success, there is only one obstacle: It is myself
Therefore, it is very important to manage myself. True Father also said that it might become the biggest devil, Satan, and enemy.It is important to train myself and make myself strong preventing from becoming the enemy. You have to give power to me, become a friend of mine, and inspire me. When we live our lives, we desire to be encouraged by others. However, we can not expect other people to encourage us always, so we have to raise our ability to encourage us by ourselves.
People usually want to tell how many difficulties there were in their life, or how big mountains of hardships they overcame. However, instead of talking about your difficulties, we should talk about God who was together with me who overcame the mountains (difficulties) We should tell how big God was, and then, how big I became by overcoming difficulties. However big adversity we may fall into, we should overcome the adversity. You have to see such strong myself, and have confidence internally.
Everyone encounters obstacles in his/her life. Everyone has pains. Whatever you may do, there would be a painful time spiritually and physically. However, through the time of endurance, your victory would become more valuable. It is a real victor who can overcome the adversities. If we escape from the difficulties making an excuse, it actually kills our future and our blessing. To give up might be easier in a sense.
When you are betrayed by the person whom you loved and devoted yourself to, it is difficult for you to love others again. Even in such a time, we have to be able to love people again.
The farther you go, the more obstacles you encounter. There will be many challenges. There will be many mountains you have to overcome. Such is life. When you overcome these challenges, you can get wisdom, and your mind is trained.
Have you ever climbed a mountain? It might be difficult during climbing a mountain, but once we stand on the top of the mountain, we feel good, we won this mountain. We can feel joy of achievement.
By the way, after reaching the summit of the mountain, we have to go down next. It is easy to praise God on the top of a mountain, but it is not easy to praise after going down, or when we look up at the next big mountain. Everyone can praise God and thank God in a good time of his/her life. Everyone can do it. Even children can do it. However, in time of trials, when people betray us, or when people take advantage of us, it is more difficult than anything to be thankful for it. In such a moment, we go through a trial. When you are betrayed by the person whom you loved and devoted yourself to, it is difficult for you to love others again. Even in such a time, we have to be able to love people again.
Be careful of your thinking. If you are not careful of your thinking, it becomes words. Be careful of your words. If you are not careful of your words, it becomes your action. Be careful of your action. If you are not careful of your action, it becomes your habit.
Everyone! Love does not mean a certain feeling. If we think love is a certain feeling or emotion, we cannot find true love. Love is practice. Love is not a noun but a verb. Some people tend to tell that they cannot feel love between husband and wife, and tend to doubt the love between husband and wife. However, they do not know what love is. Love does not mean only a certain feeling.
After you have your children, there will surely be a time when you are disappointed with the children. Your children sometimes do not listen to your words. Actually, it is children who give you hardest trials. In a sense, children might make the parents grow. I also learnt a lot from my children. When we raise our children, our attitude should not change. It is not good that our attitude is sometimes good, and sometimes bad. We have to love them consistently.
If you want to be blessed in your life, you should start from your mind. There is the following lesson. Be careful of your thinking. If you are not careful of your thinking, it becomes words. Be careful of your words. If you are not careful of your words, it becomes your action. Be careful of your action. If you are not careful of your action, it becomes your habit. Be careful of your habit. If you are not careful of your habit, it becomes your character. Be careful of your character. If you are not careful of your character, it becomes your life. Be careful of your life. If you are not careful of your life, it becomes your destiny. In short, everything starts from your mind and thinking.
The longer you walk the public way, the more obstacles Archangel (Satan) puts in your life. Never give up in front of the obstacles. In a sense, we can become bigger persons through the obstacles. If we give up in front of the obstacles, who becomes happy? It is Archangel (Satan). You might have such experience as this: when we go to school, there is a kid who annoys us. When the kid annoys us, if we cry showing timidity, the kid will annoy us more for the fun of it. However, if we say to the annoying kid, however hard you may annoy me, it is nothing to me. Even though you abuse me and make fun of me, you cannot take my joy, the kid will leave you. These kids may annoy us very much first, but if we show them an immovable attitude, they go to find another weak person.
Archangel (Satan) is the same. When we aggressively confront the obstacles in our life, saying, its nothing to me. Even though you send me more troubles, I can easily bring victory, then Archangel (Satan) will surrender. The more you bring victory, the severer Satan’s trial becomes. However, if you were never shaken, you would not get bigger blessing. You can share the blessing to other people. Everything starts from your mind.
Whichever way you may go; the way of church leaders, getting other jobs, or becoming teachers, it is important to have internal strength.
As we can feel in meditations, our minds need to be trained. We are not able to control our bodies. Instead, we are following our bodies. Therefore, we need to train our minds. We need to make our mind strong. Even though other people might try to weaken our minds, we should not be shaken. Actually, those who try to shake other people’s minds are the persons whose mind is weaker than anyone else. Therefore, if I am never shaken, they give up, and try to find another weak person. If our minds are strong, it is impossible for them to make us fail. They cannot feel evil power and stimulation through teasing us. They rather come to reflect themselves.
Whichever way you may go; the way of church leaders, getting other jobs, or becoming teachers, it is important to have internal strength. Everything changes in our lives. Our situations are sometimes good, but sometimes bad. The relationship with people is also sometimes good, but sometimes bad. Our life is uncertain. Therefore, we need to have solid minds at its center.
It is very difficult to find peace in uncertain circumstances. In the uncertain circumstances, people often feel apprehensions. If we continuously feel fears, we might live our whole lives with fear. We might become anxious about everything thinking, did this, but if it goes wrong, how do I do? How do I do if people laugh at me??
We need to accept the uncertainty of our lives as it is. We need to accept the uncertainty with clear mind instead of having fears. Please think that your can start new beginning at any moment. If we can aggressively accept the changing situation coming to us without feeling fearfulness, and if we can lead our lives with internal strength, we can bring victory at any situation. You might have difficult moments in your life, but you will bring victory overcoming the mountains.
Submitted by Nina Rosario